Saturday, August 17, 2013

Relationship verse...

"Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ." Romans 15:5-6 NASB

Awhile back I opened the Bible Gateway site to get a reference and read the above verse in the 'verse of the day'.

I stopped and prayed - thank you for reminding me, thank you Lord for reminding me.

Years ago I found this verse and held it close to my heart.

Close working relationships whether they are in the world or covered by the word 'ministry' can bring up conflict. And during that time, I needed this verse to push through those conflicts. God gave it to me and walked me through those tough times as I repeatedly read and meditated on this particular verse.

As I desire to serve the God who is, I find that he gives us the steps to handle conflict in His word.

But conflict reigns supreme with our loved ones more than with anyone else. Doesn't it? So I sit at a crossroads and this verse is laid before me again.

I am in the beginnings of a relationship and find myself concerned about conflict. Has it happened yet? No, but I know it will.

Conflict within the relationships of our lives are not only imperative but important, good and powerful. They can hone us.

As a single woman for almost 25 years, I have escaped much conflict in these 25 years. That matrimonial conflict that reigns supreme. That conflict that can cut so deep within the wounded soul one can only escape it through the knowledge that God designed it to be as it is - a venue for drawing us closer to Him.

But I was married once upon a time. 

I'm hopefully a little wiser than I was at the age of 19, but I am still simply a woman that is lead by my heart as I lay it open and bare before the God Who IS... I am lead by Him and must make judgements only through what He has taught me over the years. I seek godly counsel (through the body), I study His word for His guidance in the design of relationship (through the mind), and I pray (through the spirit). - body, mind, and spirit.  A tiny recipe for making life decisions as wisely as possible. But it still boils down to this:

Do I trust God?

There are places in my heart that were so deeply wounded. Places that tug and tear at my spirit and my soul. God has healed so many of those wounds. But there are scars.

At present I question these two: wounds and scars.

The scars are places that have been healed by the Lover of my soul.
The wounds are places that the Lover of my soul wants to heal.

The Christian Life is a process of walking in these two.

We come to God with our pain, He takes what we give Him and begins the healing process. There is no set time, no set prescription, no set agenda. It is a process. An individually designed process that He alone orchestrates. My process will not and does not look like yours and yours will not and does not look like mine. I walk this road alone because I stand before God alone.

But in God's amazing grace He sometimes offers a helpmate to walk the road together. And in God's perfect design this helpmate doesn't necessarily come without conflict. In fact, they come often with more conflict than we could have ever imagined.

How we handle the conflict often determines how our healing will progress. Sometimes we end in destruction. Sometimes we end with deeper wounds than are necessary. There are a myriad of reasons for these deeper wounds. I can only attest to my own experience.

Twenty five years ago I walked this road. It was painful and depressing and defeating and deteriorating. My body holds the remnants of these wounds turned scars.

I wish sometimes I could be like those wonderfully wounded soldiers I have met. You might have been privileged enough to have met some of those heroes. Those that have the scars of some type of war. Those that reach down to tug at the hem of their jeans and show the scar of this particular battle or that particular sacrifice. They beam with pride over the jagged white flesh.

My relationship scars are different than the hero's scars. Why? They make me want to run and hide. They create insecurities that cause me to stand in front of mirrors and recoil. Amazingly, lately God has been saying to me: see through my eyes my beloved, see through my eyes.

And sometimes (if we are blessed with a special gift) He gives us someone that sees us through His eyes, and someone we see through His eyes. And we move into helping and sharing and laughing and crying and LIFE!

I stand at the precipice of one such opportunity.

I desire to enter into it with fervor, passion, and joy.

"Now I exhort you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all agree and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be made complete in the same mind and in the same judgment." 1 Corinthians 1:10 NASB
 "Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ." Romans 15:5-6 NASB

This is my desire and my prayer for this relationship. This is my prayer for you in your relationships. I want to enter into relationship with these two verses being my inner mantra.

May God come in and strongly support us as we love with with all our hearts, and all our minds, and all our souls.
" the Lord is with you when you are with Him. And if you seek Him, He will let you find Him; but if you forsake Him, He will forsake you." 2 Chr 15:2

Seeking Him in this new found adventure.

Because HE IS the I AM, i am
your mutating missionary
and ebenezer